Does Computer Communication Limit Our Interpersonal Skills and Our Ability To Have Meaningful Relationships or Does It Help Shy People Communicate More Openly With Others?
Some people believe that computer communication limits our interpersonal skills and our ability to have meaningful relationships. Others believe that it helps people communicate more openly with others in a better way. I believe that both sides have a valid point. Although it is good that computer communication is helping other people communicate with others if they are shy or don’t really know how to start a conversation with someone in person. Personally, I believe that those who are internet struck should let go of that when they are talking to elders or loved ones. Computer communication is limiting interpersonal skills, the ability to have meaningful relationships, and helping communicate with others.
Shy people tend to turn to the internet when they want to speak up about an issue or just talk in general. Although it helps them communicate more openly it is as well lowering their confidence to actually speak in front of someone or an audience. For example: say is he/she has a speech to make or has to present in front of a large group. He/she would feel very uncomfortable and shy because they never actually experience times where they actually have to speak in front of someone. That’s not good, and the more they internet chat, text, and IM the more their speaking skills will lower. On the other hand it does higher their typing skills and gives them the ability to type way faster than the average person does.
People already have a hard enough time developing proper interpersonal skills, and for shy folks it’s even harder. Communicating by computers and IM and text messaging lowers ability to even develop those skills. It lessens speaking and writing skills, because majority of the time people tend to speak how they text or IM. For example: it slightly takes away the fact of personal skills knowing how to talk to someone. Why? Because if that person is applying for a job or at an interview they may forget what type of setting their in and starting using the language they use for text messaging and IMing. Email, IM, texting, and other sources that has to do with non-verbal talking really doesn’t show any emotion at all so that person may take it the wrong way and you don’t want that to happen.
Meaningful relationships are something everyone looks forward to if they don’t already have many developed. It could be with a friend, a loved one, a significant other, or whomever. But if all you want to do is sit down in front of a computer or just text the day away you may start to drift away from those who you want to have meaningful relationships with. Your loosing contact with those who don’t use the internet at all or don’t have or know how to text on their phone. Especially the elderly folks in your family, for them they prefer you to pick up the phone or mail them a hand written letter. Internet communication makes you lose the means of a real relationship. Internet and texting use, in some cases, make people not want to talk to you. It limits trust and the other means of a relationship, because some people can only say stuff on a text or email other than saying it in person. That’s a bad habit that shouldn’t be followed as well.
I feel that people should communicate more in person or through hand written letters and verbally talk on the phone. Loved ones feel more connected if they see and talk to you in person or just by hearing your voice, that way they can tell your emotions when talking to you. Talking to people on the phone and in person makes them feel more intact with you. Emotional attachment can’t really be shown through an email or text message. People happen to like it more when you do verbal contact rather than online or some other source.
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